Monday, April 14, 2008

If you want to Impress the ladies, maybe learn how to spell check first!

First of all, thanks for the comments. It's nice to know I'm not posting for my own entertainment!

I haven't been on my online dating site lately because I've been fairly busy.

But here is one thing that I noticed. A profile is like a resume (I'm sure we all agree, it feels like one anyway when you're writing it). You need your resume to stand out among all the other applicants. Would you hand out resumes with no spell check and in all caps? I doubt it. Or would you just hand an potential employer your picture and tell them that you'll update the resume later? probably not. So why then, men, do you think that these tactics will work when trying to impress the ladies? I know it doesn't attract me when a profile is poorly written. The occasional spelling mistake is always excusable (my fingers tend to type faster then my brain can spell too). But, a just plain old BAD profile...there's no excuse for that! It shows that you don't take the time to pay attention to the details. And ladies, when it comes to certain things, we like/need you guys to really pay attention to the details!

Now a good rant should always be supported by a great example. I've seen some bad profiles out there, and I'm sure fellow online daters have as well. But, WOW!!! This one takes the cake!

I received a message from a man with the following profile...

WOULD LIKE TO MEET SOMEONE WHO IS EASY GOING AND HONEST AND LOVEING AND TRUTWORTHY. I LIKE WOMEN THAT FAMILY IS VERY INPORTINT. I LIKE A WOMAN THAT LIKE GOING TO ZOO,BOWLING,WALKING DOWN RIVER, MOVIES,DINNERS,HOCKEY,UFC,ANIMLS.I HATE PEOPLE THAT LIE OR STEAL AND PLAY HEAD GAMES. HONEST BEST POLICY.DROP A LINE THANK .I HAVE PIC JUST ASK TO SEE THEM.ONE THINK I ASK IS IF YOU WANT LOOK THEN I NOT FOR YOU LOOK DO NOT MAKE THE PERSON . IT COME WITH IN A PERSON .

Lets break it down! First of all, the all caps thing...Lose that! do I want to date a shouter? NO!
"loveing" - I love to have proper spelling, does that count?
"Importint" - Is that when you bring in special tinting products from other countries.
I LIKE A WOMAN THAT LIKE GOING TO ZOO - bad grammar aside, I had to laugh at this because, the town that this potential suitor is from, is about 2 hours away from thee closest zoo.
WALKING DOWN RIVER - what if I want to walk up river too? is that out of the question?
HONEST BEST POLICY.DROP A LINE THANK - it sounds like he's on a cell phone that keeps cutting out.
ONE THINK I ASK IS IF YOU WANT LOOK THEN I NOT FOR YOU LOOK DO NOT MAKE THE PERSON . - I have no idea what this says. lol (actually I do, but you get my point). And Have you ever seen the movie Liar, Liar? the kid says "My teacher says that real beauty comes from within." Dad's response "That's just something ugly people say." ( <-- Great line)
I admit I'm no supermodel, but, in my opinion, you just told me that you think you're ugly. And while you're right, we should focus on what is inside, and all that crap. Lets face it, that's not always the case. Plus, I think I mentioned in my first post, that there, at least, has to be some form of physical attraction between a couple. If you don't find your partner attractive in some way then it's likely not going to work. I'm not being shallow, that's reality.
However, if you're going with the whole personality should be judged over looks argument, then you basically just said that you lack self confidence, and I don't really want to deal with that either.

Now, I know some of you are thinking that I should give him the benefit of the doubt and that maybe he's from another country, maybe his English is not up to par, etc. Well the profile says he's from a small town (where I know the population is predominitely English), he's Caucasian and there's a few other hints in there that would suggest that his first language should be English. So I'm not buying the "from a foreign country" protest.

In conclusion, this profile is terrible! And since my profile states that I like to be able to carry on interesting conversations (or it did at one point anyway, I've updated it a few times), then I'm sorry potential suitor, but I don't think we're going to mesh! (oh and I have received 2 messages from this guy and the grammar/spelling does not get any better. they're not in all caps though).

I'll see if I can get some more surf time in this week, and hopefully my next post will have some better news!

Thanks for stopping by!

5 comments:

Sassy said...

Wow, sounds almost as good as one guy I heard from. Check out his wonderful communication skills here:
http://desertdivorcee.blogspot.com/2008/01/online-dating.html

Reasonably Happy Gal said...

I think I've heard from that guy! Kidding. But when I was into the online dating thing, I did receive a message that was very similar. I sent it to all my friends to see if any of them could decipher it.

It ended with "ask me anything." So, I sent the guy a list of simple, not-too-probing questions; and his reply was to write me back with MY questions, no answers, and ask me why I didn't want to ask him anything. Hmmm.

I look forward to hearing more stories. So far, they are quite amusing.

Two Date Diva said...

I have found that sometimes men with terrible grammar are those scammer guys who fall in love with you on the first email and want youto fly them home from Nigeria.

miss diarist said...

Sounds like you've stumbled across a few keepers there...

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